Finding Strength

In life, we all have something we’re striving to do, a goal we have set, which we are reaching for – and while it’s normal to have ambitions and goals,  not many people will tell you that trying to reach those goals, can be absolutely terrifying…

Setting a goal can often be as scary as trying to achieve the goal, but it seems more acceptable and normal to have a set goal – but what about achieving it?

“They say” we’re supposed to set goals that terrify us – something which is so big, and scary that in a funny, twisted way, it’s a cross between fear and sheer excitement.

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The real challenge is when you set the goal, then you have to try and achieve it – and when you begin to take the first few steps, it is petrifying.

It can continue to be throughout your climb to reach your goal; but it shouldn’t be. In fact, climbing your own mountain (goal) should be thrilling and you should do it, but without the fear.

Feel the fear, understand why you’re afraid, then put everything you know into practice – learn, study, do, repeat. Focus on the job at hand – take each step as it comes. As you take one step, the next step becomes clear, and the next step is even clearer.

We spend hours and years training for something – whether it’s studying the law, so you can take the bar, to become a barrister, or training to run a marathon, one way or another you’ve been waiting for the chance to get stuck into your goal, and you’ll be surprised at how much you already know that you can put into practice to help you reach your goal.

When it comes to doing your goal, and taking that first step, and following steps, try not to think too much about whether you’re able to or not. Don’t question yourself, don’t doubt your ability, in fact do the opposite. Put your utmost trust in your abilities to do what you set your mind to.

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You may need to develop skills, and learn new things, but that doesn’t mean that you, the person, can’t achieve the goal you set yourself.

Climbing the Mountain

After you’ve done all your preparation, planning, and due diligence, there will come a point when you have to actually take the plunge, and climb that mountain.

Then there will be the point where you’re half way up the mountain, and you’re terrified, and you don’t know how to take another step, which is when you need to remember this:-

You’ve been preparing for the climb, but now you’re on the mountain.

You’re on “Mt. Everest”, and you’re halfway to the top – this, here and now is when you have to put all your training, everything you’ve done and thought about into the climb.

But when you’re climbing, other than thinking about which step to take, and what your best route is, you just need to do the action.

Take each step, don’t look up at the top of the peak, and don’t look down behind you. Only look 3 steps ahead. Don’t think about what you’re doing (i.e. “I’m climbing Mt. Everest”) or whether you can do it (i.e. “Can I really climb Mt. Everest?”, or how you’ll take the next 100 steps (i.e. “How will I reach the top of Mt. Everest?”).

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Think about your plan, think about your next 3 steps, and then when you’ve done those 3 steps, think about the following steps, take those steps, and the next ones will be clear and each part of your climb will become clearer as you go along.

If you look behind you, you’ll terrify yourself into thinking how far the drop is if you fail. So don’t look behind yourself.

If you look too far in front of yourself, you’ll only start to think about how many more hundreds of steps, and hours you have before you’ll reach the top — and you’ll panic about how you’re going to get there, and what could go wrong as you make your ascent.

Sometimes your head likes to get in the way of what your body, and your training (skill) can do.

You need to use the functional part of your head, to work out how to take each step, but don’t let the negative (self-doubting) part of your head get in the way of your true ability to do something absolutely phenomenal with yourself. Whether it’s climbing Mt. Everest, becoming a barrister, musician, or chef etc…

Remember, the climb is only clear once you’ve made it. If you’re standing on top of Mt. Everest, you’ll be able to look down, and know how you reached the top. Which route you took, and how long it took you. You’ll know all the steps you found easy, and all the ones that you found hard.

But while you’re climbing, you’re not supposed to have that insight – if we knew everything about our lives, what would be the point in living them?

Go and do the things you want, and do them without the fear of failure. Trust you can, and you will. This will give you true, unwavering strength that will help you to lead the most incredible, self-fulfilling life you really deserve to live.

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And lastly – you might feel alone in your ascent, but if you look around you, there are many other people also climbing their own mountains, and even if they’re not climbing Mt. Everest with you, it doesn’t mean you’re alone in your ascent.

There are people all around you, whether you realise it or not, who can help and support you.

But if you’re feeling alone in your goal and feel like it’s too much – remember, there’s someone, whatever your faith, who is out there, looking down on you, who has complete faith in your abilities, and they’re just waiting for you to reach your full potential.

Believe, and you will.

 

 

About the author

Olivia L'Estrange-Bell

23yr old English Entrepreneur. Self-Taught, with my first exam being my driving theory test. Successful photographer, horse trainer, author and entrepreneur from Dorset, England.

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  • Thanks Olivia, this is very well written and I like your perspective of not worrying about the goal but getting out there and doing the goal. I think that thought around repeating your steps is also very powerful

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