Everyone has battles. Every day, each person you see, is battling something – climbing their own mountain, or battling a problem – we all have things we’re trying to resolve and move forward from.
What’s extraordinary though, is this relatively common thought that “I’m the only one with ___ problem” – it’s quite the opposite. But it’s easy to think you’re alone in your problem, the only one.
This thought alone, I’ve come to realise over time, is rife throughout society – and it makes dealing with our problems harder, because we feel like everyone else has the perfect life, with no problems to speak of, and this makes us feel excluded, shut off from society and alone in our problems.
We feel shame, and embarrassment for talking about our problems, seeking advice, and so many other emotions, it’s hard to comprehend.
You’re Not Alone
So, the point of this post is to voice this behaviour.
If you have a problem – whatever it is, you’re unlikely to be the first person dealing with it – you aren’t alone, and if you look hard enough, you will most likely find at least one person who has also experienced your problem, one way or another.
Don’t deal with your problem alone – voice it. To someone – choose someone who you can confide in, to ease the weight of the problem. The person you confide in may not be able to help you proactively resolve the issue, but they can be a support, and a lot can be said for support.
If you feel supported, you’ll find your problems are a lot easier to resolve. However if you are feeling alone, and trapped in your own head, then you’re going to find it a lot harder to battle.
As a great friend of mine once said to me when I confided in them: “A problem shared is a problem halved.”
So next time you have a problem – or if you’re going through a problem – remember that we all have problems, big and small. But we usually have all the resources we need, whether we realise it or not, to resolve our problems and achieve the outcome we most desire.
I have yet to be faced with a challenge that I haven’t been able to battle and achieve – very often the challenge has been immensely difficult, but not impossible. Sure it’s felt impossible at the initial stage, often half way through, and even three quarters of the way through, but in the end, the challenge was achievable.
My final thought for you is, don’t cut yourself off and try to battle your challenge on your own – there’s a reason an army is not one person, but many people – together we’re stronger, even if we’re not all leaders, the back (support) is as important as the front. There would be no frontline, without hundreds of people to back them up.
Find support, speak out, ask for help, talk things through, but most of all – believe in your ability and don’t doubt yourself. Trust that you have the ability to do what you set out to do.